If you are feeling suicidal:

If you are feeling suicidal now you may be feeling very alone, lost, frightened, confused. You may be feeling there is no other way out of your problem, difficulties, worries, feelings, or whatever reason you are contemplating taking your life.

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It may be that at the moment you are so overcome with feelings, sadness, despair, that you are not able to think clearly about other possibilities, other solutions, other alternatives, other ways of coping.

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Suicide is very final - if you succeed in taking your life - there are no second chances and nobody really knows what will happen when they die.

It may be difficult to take in at this moment in time but the feelings you have at the moment may be temporary - you may not always feel like this.  

There are people who have been in exactly the same position as you but who somehow found a way to survive and now thrive and have gone on to find happiness and fulfilment in life and to be able to cope with life more easily - they have found alternatives to suicide and were glad that they did not take their own life.

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You may feel like this now because the pain you are feeling has become unbearable. Just talking to someone else about how you are feeling can take some of that weight off your shoulders.

There may be other things you can do to help yourself cope, to change things, to survive. It is incredibly sad that you feel so bad that you want to die.

You may be telling yourself that other people would be better off without you but other people would not want you to take your life.

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You may feel that nobody cares about you anyway but there are people who will care if you allow them to care for you.

I care deeply that you are thinking of ending your life, that you see no hope, no alternative, but something so final as death.

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You may be trying to convince yourself that your loved ones would be better off without you but if you were able to see the devastation that it causes families and friends of people who take their own lives you would not think that.

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If you cannot see for yourself a reason to carry on living try and give others the chance to explore with you whether they can help you to see if there are any reasons for you to carry on living - give someone a chance to do that for you.

You have nothing to lose. If you are determined to kill yourself there is no hurry - there is no need to take immediate action.

Give yourself the next few days to see whether there are any alternatives, talk to a friend, a relative, a helpline, a counsellor, look at some of the websites where other people have felt suicidal but found alternatives to killing themselves.

There are alternatives to suicide so give yourself some time to find some support, some help with coping and talk to others about how you are really feeling. Allow others to care for you just as you would if your best friend came and told you he/she was suicidal - talk to yourself as you would a friend.

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If you are feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain.